Why BMI is Flawed | How Much Protein You Need | 7 Common Nutrient Deficiencies
05-17-21

  • Anger overshadows everything and one of the best analogies is the Anger Iceberg, where the anger emotion is the visible tip above the water, covering up and hiding the harder to express and accept emotions such as sadness, fear, and resentment. Anger, hence, is only part of the story. We all get angry, some faster than others, some more intense than others. Regardless of the how and why the underlying reason is a perceived threat. This threat, which is usually viewed as unjust or unfair, triggers the fight-or-flight response, and subconsciously, anger seems to be the safe response to the situation. Depending on the situation anger can also feel empowering (which feels good). For instance, "oh yeah, well I'll show you..." That sense could be for a group of people being mistreated or just about you. Either way, someone’s getting screwed and you are not going to take it. That empowerment feels good, but the trick is turning the reaction of, “I’ll show you,” to the intent of, “Here’s how I’m going to show you.” Unfortunately, getting angry rarely makes anything better. When you become angry, the first thing you should do is validate that “Getting angry is as normal as getting happy.” This helps to alleviate any undue stress that you should be reacting in a particular way. After that, which will actually calm you a little, check-in with the actual situation. While the "threat" may feel real, is the threat your emotional response perceives equal to the actual threat? Jeremy Frank, a clinical psychologist in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, recommends asking: What are you thinking? Why are you feeling emotionally? What are you feeling physically? Follow that with deep breathing for 10-30 or however long you need, and re-ask the questions. Chances are your awareness has expanded and empathy can creep in, allowing you to realize, “Someone was having a bad day,” or it might be nothing more than, “that guy was simply a jerk but he’s probably always that way and has nothing to do with me.” Handling anger is more than being kind to others it's about being kind to yourself as well. Anger puts a drain on you and a drain on others. Just like all other areas of life, however, controlling one's anger takes practice. While eventually, you may want to dig deep into the reasons for the anger for better understanding, just acknowledging it and accepting it can make a huge difference in controlling it. After all, no one wants to be around someone who is grumpy or confrontational all the time.

9 Paradoxical Truths That Will Change How You Think About Life

Since you’re about to embark on a journey of paradoxical truths, here’s an obvious one for you. This probably won’t change the way you think about life, as the title suggests. That doesn’t mean it’s not worth a read, though. These mindsets might help you tackle today’s challenges or yesterday’s lingering conundrums. MIND CAFE


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